Category: Getting Pregnant
|October 16, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant|
…baby-making, that is.
Karen‘s trials throughout her journey to conceive No 3 and my own experiences of failed TTC (Trying To Conceive) attempts tells a story that National Geographic never covered when they did their documentary, In The Womb. No matter what or how we try to convince our young ones that getting pregnant is as easy as man meets woman and both have sex, in reality, baby-making is a unique and delicate process – one that relies on many factors just being right.
A woman can have an “empty” ovulation, meaning a fertile period without a viable egg; the timing of intercourse could be off by just a few hours (in the case of busy couples or those with lower sex drives, it could be days); a fertile and implanted egg doesn’t always lead to an embryo like in my case…so many factors yet so little understanding of the journey of conception itself.
A couple that is trying to conceive doesn’t need constant questions about their sex life or their baby-making plans. Almost every woman I know who is trying to conceive complains about being stressed out by other people who keep fielding the age old question – “Are you planning on having kids? When? Are you busy making babies?”. The questions add to the pressure, and the pressure ultimately adds to the stress. And if you hadn’t known, stress has an impact on the whole process.
Yes, it’s that time of the month again and frankly, I dread having to put up with the whole “So do you have good news yet?” again. So, I’ll say it here. If I have good news, I’ll share it. There is no need to ask. Why? Because people need to understand that baby-making is not as easy as “do it often and be more hardworking”.
It is never that easy.
|October 5, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant|
It’s nearing that time of month again.
According to my own internal calculation, I should be seeing that “I’m not pregnant” telltale sign tomorrow. I could always refer back to mymonthlycycles.com for a “better” calculation but they aren’t exactly reliable – somehow they’ve included my first pregnancy months and therefore, each of my cycle is close to 50 days long. Talk about inaccurate.
I still can’t believe it’s October – this is probably our fourth month in the whole TTC (Trying To Conceive) journey. In order to take my mind off the whole thing, I’ve decided to keep busy with my little shop. Starting French classes helped and hopefully in time, a job will ease matters considerably.
In the meantime, I suppose it’s always best to take things easy and well, not despair when the signs of a failed attempt come a-calling.
|July 10, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant|
…must be difficult. To once again go through the “Will I miss my period? Am I preggers?” and then be disappointed when your period does come…
It’s driving me a little insane, honestly.
I was on a confinement for one month so for us, we only really started trying in June. I’m onto the July period now and I can’t say that I wasn’t disappointed at the first sign of my period. I was…even though I caught the flu and popped some pills, something which I haven’t done in a very very long time (yes, the last time I got sick was nearly 1.5 years ago).
So we’re back to the board again. My consolation is in the fact that a lot of women don’t release eggs at every cycle, so maybe it’s one of those months where I’m shooting out blanks (sorry about the descriptions). But it doesn’t stop me from wondering some women can take that news over and over again.
The ones who keep trying but don’t succeed. The ones who keep trying only to give up. I can’t help but have that slight tinge of fear that I’ll fall into both categories…I had this fear once and well, I hate to have it again.
|May 13, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant, Thoughts & Emo-ness|
…and we got the “all good to go” sign from the doctors.
After the second blood test last week, we were given a slot to come back and check if all was okay. So we made the trip to the gynaecology polyclinic for a check-up. The system here is slightly different from Malaysia – you go to the reception counter to get your registration details and this nifty little card with a magnetic strip at the back. Then you take it to the floor and reception desk that you’re supposed to go to and give it to whoever who is at the counter. That’s it.
After that, it’s the same with anywhere else – your name gets called and you go in for whatever you’re supposed to go in for. In my case, I went in to two men – one doctor and the other a student – and a nurse. Some women might find it strange or weird but I am okay with it. I suppose all those visits to the hospital as a kid has numbed me to the strangeness.
Anyway, after another transvaginal scan, the doctor gave us the news we (didn’t) needed to hear. More importantly, he reiterated the fact that I can get pregnant and my uterus plus ovaries are healthy. We are also free to try for the next one after two or three months but I think Nil might not care to follow that rule.
So yes, everything is going well here.
|May 9, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant, Thoughts & Emo-ness|
Since we are back on the TTC (Trying To Conceive) road, Nil and I thought it would be best to try again after my period ended. The last time we had intercourse was nearly three weeks ago so both of us were getting a little rusty, not to mention sexually frustrated.
For me, it felt a little strange to have sex again after going through a pregnancy loss. Sure, it was nice and pleasurable – and naturally more for my husband than me because frankly, women are more affected by miscarriages and abortions compared to men.
While I am coping well with the loss, I find it difficult to enjoy sex as much as I did before. Perhaps it is because I fear that the same thing will happen again – the whole pregnancy occurring and having to deal with the loss.
One of my friends did tell me that this will take a while before I can get intimate with Nil without the fear of the past happening again. But I do wonder if this is normal…and if so, how long will I need to get over this…
|February 23, 2008||Posted by Mabel under Getting Pregnant, Info|
Say no to stress!
Lastly, when planning for babies, it’s always best to avoid stress. While small amounts of stress are necessary and part of human life, too much affects hormone production and in some cases, may even delay ovulation and menstruation. I know – I once missed my period for three months due to stress at the workplace.
If you can’t avoid meeting head-on with stress, perhaps a little relaxation time is needed – yoga and other forms of activities such as gym and swimming can and have been proven to be stress busters. Besides, exercise also has a dual function – helps with losing weight and keeping your body in good shape!
From this article at Parents.com,
…learning to manage stress through relaxation techniques (such as mindfulness meditation or yoga) or support from a counselor or a group, can get your hormones back on track, Dr. Barbieri says. In fact, a study from Harvard University’s Mind-Body Center for Women’s Health found that group therapy more than doubled the conception rate for women who had had trouble getting pregnant…
Babymaking should be a time where you partake in sharing your love, so don’t think too much about babies and just get busy. Sometimes the harder you look, the further your goal will run. Besides, it pays to be pleasantly surprised when you do get word that a bundle of joy is coming your way.